
Exactly What to Say
Often the decision between a customer choosing you over someone like you is your ability to know exactly what to say, when to say it, and how to make it count. Since 2017 Exactly What to Say has been helping people across the globe to learn practical and instantly applicable skills. Author Phil M Jones has trained more than two million people across five continents and over fifty countries in the lost art of spoken communication. In Exactly What to Say, Phil delivers what he calls his “Magic Words” and precise examples of how you can use them. If you have ever found yourself lost for words, or have come away from a conversation without the result you are looking for, then the wisdom in this book delivers you both principles and exact examples to allow you to grow your confidence in conversation. In your important moments, do you feel that you know exactly what to say? Join the Exactly What To Say community and make your conversations count
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Simple Swaps Thinking Framework: Stop Saying It Like This - Say This Instead

Billion-Dollar Businesses Are Built on Engineering Moments

You're Selling Vitamins to Someone Who Needs Painkillers -- How to ACTUALLY Help Your Clients
Human decision-making follows a rigid hierarchy of problem-solving that prioritizes immediate survival over aspirational goals. Effective influence requires identifying where a person sits on this "priority ladder," which ascends from immediate and urgent issues to important, essential, and finally aspirational problem...

"Before You Make Up Your Mind" -- The Language Pattern That Undoes Any Decision
Persuasion relies on specific psychological patterns that minimize resistance and foster agreement. Empathy and active listening create a foundation for influence, while logical reasoning—using deductive and inductive methods—provides necessary structure. The Zeigarnik effect leverages the human drive to close open loo...

Why does fake AI feel like a betrayal the second you find out it's not human?

You're Not Broken: Your Beliefs Are Just Useless

The Job Is the Transaction. The Career Is the Relationship.
Greatness in real estate transcends the transaction, shifting the focus from property mechanics to the client's life design and long-term goals. While competent agents manage paperwork and deadlines, truly great agents act as advisors who anticipate needs and solve problems before they arise. This level of service requ...

3 Keys to Open Any Door -- Thinking Framework

5 Simple Word Swaps That Make People Say Yes -- The Truth About Persuasive Language
Effective communication relies on leveraging psychological principles like autonomy, cognitive ease, and the human need for certainty. Autonomy serves as the primary antidote to resistance, as individuals are more likely to commit to actions when they perceive personal control, a concept supported by self-determination...

The Four Value Lenses -- Thinking Framework

Inner Propaganda: How to Get Real Buy-In From Your Team (Live Interview with Owen Fitzpatrick)
Beliefs are not the result of logical data collection but are instead formed by feelings and identity alignment, with logic serving only as a final validation. The brain functions as a double agent, prioritizing safety and stability over accuracy, which often leads to "inner propaganda" that distorts reality. Effective...

Thinking Framework: The 5 Step Dance

Thinking Framework: Moment, Modality, Message
Effective communication relies on the "Moment, Modality, Message" framework, a strategy designed to replace impulsive reactions with intentionality. Success in any interaction depends on choosing the right time (moment), selecting the appropriate medium (modality), and crafting a clear, purposeful message. Misunderstan...

Put the Elephant in the Room Before They Do -- Handle Any Objection Before It Is Raised

Cognitive Dissonance: The Real Reason They Won't Say Yes (And How To Win Them Over)
Cognitive dissonance drives individuals to justify beliefs and behaviors to maintain a consistent self-identity, often leading to irrational rationalizations rather than logical decision-making. Overcoming resistance requires addressing psychological reactance, where individuals reject perceived manipulation to preserv...

Stop Asking for Referrals — Do This Instead
Asking for referrals is a critical driver of business growth, yet many professionals struggle with the timing and phrasing of these requests. The most effective moment to solicit a referral is immediately after a client expresses gratitude, as this indicates a sense of indebtedness. To increase success rates, replace t...

When They're About to Say No — Say This Instead

Critical Conversations: The Moment That Makes or Breaks Everything
Success in any endeavor hinges on mastering "critical conversations"—specific moments that exert an over-indexing impact on desired outcomes. Rather than seeking generalized improvements, focus on isolating the "broken cog" within a process, such as the initial 15 seconds of a home arrival or a specific stage in a sale...

The Problem Ladder: The Secret to Selling Anything
Effective sales and professional communication require shifting from being reactive problem solvers to proactive problem seekers who address clients' immediate concerns before attempting to sell aspirational solutions. The "problem ladder"—a five-tiered hierarchy ranging from immediate and urgent to important, essentia...
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