The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Stop Arguing With Narcissists — Do This Instead

When to Speak Up

The podcast addresses the myth of the "perfect time" for difficult conversations, arguing that waiting for it leads to negative consequences. It emphasizes that there is only "now and not now," and delaying necessary discussions results in pain and compounded problems. Exceptions to immediate conversation include situa...

The Lawyer’s Method to Shut Down Narcissism

How to Sound Assertive Without Sounding Rude

The podcast addresses how to sound assertive without being rude, focusing on practical communication techniques. It emphasizes that assertiveness lies between aggression and passivity, requiring respect for both oneself and others. Key to sounding assertive is tone, specifically ending sentences with a downward curve r...

3 Communication Habits to Change This Year

The Best Communication Advice of 2025

How to Prepare for a Hard Conversation

How to Shut Down Gaslighting Without Escalating

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, Jefferson discusses "weaponized confusion" as a tactic used in conversations to avoid accountability. He differentiates between genuine confusion and intentional obfuscation by focusing on the other person's willingness to learn and clarify. Jefferson outlines how to spo...

Robert Greene: Why People Manipulate & How to Protect Yourself

Jefferson Fisher interviews Robert Greene, author of "The 48 Laws of Power," about the nature of power, its relationship to integrity, and how it intersects with communication. Greene defines power as a neutral tool and the ability to control one's environment, starting with self-control. He emphasizes strategic commun...

This Is Why Emotional People Hijack Conversations

How To Talk To Someone You Completely Disagree With

Good Communication Is Overrated—Try This Instead

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, Jefferson discusses the importance of authenticity and integrity in conversations. He argues that perfection is not the standard and that people relate to struggle. He distinguishes between authenticity, which is being real, and integrity, which is doing what is right. J...

From Denny’s Waitress to Billion-Dollar CEO with Jamie Kern Lima

3 Simple Questions That Put You Back in Control

Top Conflict Coach Shares the Key to Staying Cool Under Attack

You’ve Been Talking All Wrong in Difficult Conversations

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, Jefferson discusses three conversation landmines to avoid in order to prevent conflict. First, he advises against starting sentences with "you," suggesting the use of "I" statements to express feelings. Second, he recommends eliminating disclaimers like "I don't mean to ...

Dr. Becky: How to Stay Patient When You’re Triggered

The podcast explores strategies for parents to understand and respond effectively to their children's misbehavior. It challenges the common perception of misbehavior as a character flaw, framing it instead as a skill deficit or a sign of unmet needs. Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist, emphasizes the importance...

Being Nice Won’t Save You in Difficult Conversations

STOP Trying to Be Calm. This Is How You Actually Handle Emotional People

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, Jefferson Fisher explores the concept of calmness in conversations, arguing that "grounded connection" is often more effective. He defines calmness as the absence of reaction, which can sometimes be perceived as apathy. Grounded connection, on the other hand, involves be...

What They Really Mean When They Belittle You