How to understand your tendencies and identify what's keeping you stuck. Plus: advice on treating resistance as data, reclaiming time affluence, and avoiding "procrasticlearing."

Laurie Santos is the Chandrika and Ranjan Tandon Professor of Psychology at Yale University. In addition to her work on the evolutionary origins of human cognition, Laurie is an expert on the science of happiness and the ways in which our minds lie to us about what makes us happy. Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, is a top-3 Apple podcast which has attracted 150+ million downloads since its launch.

Gretchen Rubin is one of today's most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She's the author of many bestselling books, such as The Happiness Project, Better Than Before, The Four Tendencies, and Life in Five Senses which have sold millions of copies in more than thirty languages. Her most recent book is Secrets of Adulthood. She's also host of the popular podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin.

In this episode we talk about:

Why your intuitions often make stuckness worse, not better
The difference between mindless drift and mindful, deliberate delay
How to treat resistance as useful data instead of laziness
Kristin Neff's three-part framework for practicing real self-compassion
Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies and how they shape what gets you unstuck
Why clearing physical space creates a felt sense of agency
The "liking gap" and why reaching out matters more than you think
How to satisfice instead of optimize when a decision feels stuck

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Past appearances of Gretchen and Laurie

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