How to Become the Person You’ve Always Wanted to Be

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel interviews comedian Chelsea Handler about her life, career, and journey to self-discovery. Chelsea shares stories from her childhood, including her entrepreneurial lemonade stand and her determination to fly first class. She discusses her early career struggles, her experience with therapy, and the lessons she's learned about anger, vulnerability, and self-acceptance. Chelsea emphasizes the importance of self-love, spreading joy, and bringing a positive vibe to the world, encouraging listeners to embrace their own strength and potential.

Outlines

Part 1: Introduction and Setting the Stage

Part 2: Early Life, Ambition, and Independence

Part 3: Entrepreneurial Ventures and Claiming Desires

Part 4: Career Beginnings and Comedy

Part 5: Sisterhood and Self-Awareness

Part 6: Therapy, Anger, and Personal Growth

Part 7: Joy, Gratitude, and Parting Words

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Part 1: Introduction and Setting the Stage

00:00Introduction to Confidence and Claiming What You Want

Introduction to Confidence and Claiming What You Want

02:15Welcoming Chelsea Handler and Setting the Stage for the Conversation

Welcoming Chelsea Handler and Setting the Stage for the Conversation

03:58Chelsea Handler's Perspective on Positivity and Personal Growth

Chelsea Handler's Perspective on Positivity and Personal Growth

Part 2: Early Life, Ambition, and Independence

06:19The Importance of Self-Reliance and Remembering Your Roots

The Importance of Self-Reliance and Remembering Your Roots

07:54Chelsea's Early Vision of Herself and the Desire for Independence

Chelsea's Early Vision of Herself and the Desire for Independence

09:53Overcoming Uncertainty and Taking Control of Your Life

Overcoming Uncertainty and Taking Control of Your Life

12:41Responsibility for Happiness and Claiming What You Want

Responsibility for Happiness and Claiming What You Want

Part 3: Entrepreneurial Ventures and Claiming Desires

14:45Chelsea's Entrepreneurial Beginnings: The Lemonade Stand

Chelsea's Entrepreneurial Beginnings: The Lemonade Stand

17:30Expanding the Business and the Babysitting Company

Expanding the Business and the Babysitting Company

20:21Buying a First Class Ticket and the Mindset of Claiming What You Want

Buying a First Class Ticket and the Mindset of Claiming What You Want

22:44Unapologetically Wanting More and Leaving New Jersey

Unapologetically Wanting More and Leaving New Jersey

24:26The Impact of Loss and the Need for Individuality

The Impact of Loss and the Need for Individuality

Part 4: Career Beginnings and Comedy

26:24Moving to California and the DUI

Moving to California and the DUI

28:30DUI School and Discovering Stand-Up Comedy

DUI School and Discovering Stand-Up Comedy

30:16Starting a Career in Stand-Up Comedy

Starting a Career in Stand-Up Comedy

31:33Confidence as Willingness to Try and Open-Mindedness

Confidence as Willingness to Try and Open-Mindedness

33:32Failures Can Lead to Success

Failures Can Lead to Success

34:22Bombing in Montreal and Getting a Second Chance

Bombing in Montreal and Getting a Second Chance

37:23The Importance of Saying Yes and Believing in Yourself

The Importance of Saying Yes and Believing in Yourself

Part 5: Sisterhood and Self-Awareness

39:25An Email from Jane Fonda

An Email from Jane Fonda

40:10Jane Fonda's Honest Feedback

Jane Fonda's Honest Feedback

43:41The Definition of Sisterhood and a Light Bulb Moment

The Definition of Sisterhood and a Light Bulb Moment

45:50Holding Out a Better Vision for Others

Holding Out a Better Vision for Others

47:31The Gift of Self-Awareness and the Impact of Therapy

The Gift of Self-Awareness and the Impact of Therapy

49:50The Election of 2016 and Getting to the Core

The Election of 2016 and Getting to the Core

Part 6: Therapy, Anger, and Personal Growth

52:36The Newer Version of Chelsea and Insecurities

The Newer Version of Chelsea and Insecurities

55:27The Emotion of Anger and What's Underneath It

The Emotion of Anger and What's Underneath It

57:24Resentment, Judgment, and the Importance of Being Judgment-Free

Resentment, Judgment, and the Importance of Being Judgment-Free

59:31The Concern of Losing Your Edge and the Ground Shifting

The Concern of Losing Your Edge and the Ground Shifting

1:01:07The Adjustment Period and Becoming Your Own Best Friend

The Adjustment Period and Becoming Your Own Best Friend

1:03:36Loving Yourself and Reminding Yourself of Your Value

Loving Yourself and Reminding Yourself of Your Value

1:05:25Spreading Generosity and Healing Your Anger

Spreading Generosity and Healing Your Anger

1:06:27Learning How to Not Lose Your Temper

Learning How to Not Lose Your Temper

Part 7: Joy, Gratitude, and Parting Words

1:07:57Dedication to Flight Attendants and Plain Etiquette

Dedication to Flight Attendants and Plain Etiquette

1:09:05Joy as a Purpose and Gratitude

Joy as a Purpose and Gratitude

1:11:34Reading from "I'll Have What She's Having"