In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I'm joined by Coach Yeadon as we dive into a question many of us have silently asked ourselves: "Why am I watching porn even when I'm not even horny?" This episode explores the deeper emotional drivers behind porn addiction—stress, anxiety, loneliness, fear, and emotional exhaustion—and why porn becomes our default coping mechanism.

Together, we unpack the truth that porn use often has little to do with sex and everything to do with emotional avoidance. We look at how this habit develops, why it "almost works," and how we've been misled into thinking we just have a high sex drive. The truth is, unmet emotional needs are what drive most compulsive behaviors.

Yeadon and I also share practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you build the capacity to sit with discomfort, regulate your nervous system, and begin choosing healthier ways to meet your needs. Whether you're just starting out or deep in the work, this conversation offers real insight, emotional clarity, and an invitation to rise above old patterns.

Top 10 Show Highlights:

[00:12] Matt and Yeadon open with the real question: "Why do I watch porn when I'm not even aroused?"
[01:34] Breaking the myth: it's not about sex, it's about emotional pain and avoidance.
[02:04] A look at how stress, boredom, anxiety, and loneliness fuel compulsive porn use.
[03:57] Calling out the lie of the "high sex drive" narrative—porn is not about libido.
[05:12] Yeadon shares how emotional overwhelm led to habitual porn use in his past.
[06:50] The role of awareness and the HALT check-in: hungry, angry, lonely, tired.
[08:42] "Porn almost works"—why short-term relief keeps you stuck in the cycle.
[10:12] Training the brain to face pain: how to sit with discomfort and not run.
[12:57] Practical tools: breathwork, cold showers, movement, and brotherhood.
[15:26] Emotional intelligence: learning to respond, not react—and how to begin that journey.

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