In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to tackle one of the most gut-wrenching and pivotal questions a man can face in his recovery journey: "Should I tell her?"

Whether you're married, dating, or in any form of committed relationship, this episode dives deep into the emotional and relational weight of hiding a porn habit. We explore the spiritual and psychological costs of secrecy, the deadly role of shame, and what true transparency and integrity require. You'll learn when and how to approach the conversation, the role of community in preparing for disclosure, and why doing your work before you speak is critical.

Top 10 Show Highlights:

[00:12] Welcome and introduction to today's critical topic: "Should I tell her?"

[01:03] The emotional burden of hiding porn use in a relationship.

[01:31] The impact of porn on intimacy and why this conversation matters deeply.

[02:48] Why there's no one-size-fits-all answer, but why the conversation likely needs to happen.

[03:16] How shame grows in secrecy — and dies in the light.

[04:17] Understanding why you're sharing: guilt relief vs. relational integrity.

[06:06] A therapist's advice: "Are you telling her to feel forgiven, or to let her know the full you?"

[07:29] The danger of making the disclosure all about you — and the pain it causes.

[08:00] The power of community, mentorship, and counsel before disclosure.

[08:56] Who to seek advice from — and why the wrong people will just normalize porn.

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