Working with sex and sexuality using IFS with Victoria Kirby

The podcast explores the application of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to sex and sexuality, featuring Victoria Kirby, an IFS therapist specializing in sex and relationships. Kirby discusses the cultural shame surrounding sex that often prevents therapists from addressing it, despite sexuality being fundamental to connection and attachment needs. She introduces the concept of internal consent, highlighting how protectors can drive sexual behavior that doesn't align with a person's needs, leading to disconnection and trauma. Kirby also addresses the complexities of shame spirals in sexuality, especially for those with non-heteronormative orientations, and touches on navigating consensual non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of secure internal attachment.