Getting Past You and Me with Terry’s new book: Us

Terry Real, family therapist and author of "Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship," discusses his new book and upcoming workshop, focusing on relational mindfulness and moving beyond individualism. He introduces a model of three parts of the psyche: the wise adult, the wounded child, and the adaptive child, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and managing the adaptive child's reactive patterns in relationships. Real critiques the "toxic culture of individualism," arguing for a shift towards cooperation and humility in personal relationships and broader societal issues like racism and climate change. He advocates for "fierce intimacy" and "soft power," urging couples to confront issues directly with love and for individuals to assert themselves while empowering their partners.