324. Why do we hold grudges?

In "The Psychology of Your 20s," Jemma explores the psychology behind holding grudges, defining them as persistent feelings of resentment stemming from past offenses and involving active rumination. She discusses how grudges differ from fleeting anger due to their lingering nature and connection to core human behaviors. Jemma explains that grudges can serve as a form of self-protection, a way to maintain boundaries, and an attempt to restore a sense of justice and control. She also addresses the physical and emotional impacts of holding grudges, including somatization and the hindering of new connections. Jemma offers advice on processing anger, considering forgiveness as self-care (not condoning the offense), and rewriting personal narratives to release resentment and find peace.