The Art of Communication: How to Stay Calm, Connected and In Control During Life’s Toughest Moments with Jefferson Fisher #571

In this episode of "Feel Better, Live More," Dr. Rangan Chatterjee interviews Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and author, about effective communication. They explore why good communication goes beyond just words, focusing on three core principles: control, confidence, and connection. Fisher shares personal stories and actionable advice, emphasizing the importance of listening, controlling one's reactions, and understanding the underlying emotions driving conversations. They discuss practical tools like using breath to diffuse tension, the "I Can Tell" framework, and the power of silence. The conversation also touches on the impact of ego, fear, and unspoken emotions on communication, and how improving communication can positively affect relationships, health, and overall well-being.

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Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee

Introduction to Effective Communication and Its Importance

The Genesis of a Passion for Communication: A Personal Story

Communication as a Fundamental Human Need and the Power of Choice

The Three Core Principles of Effective Communication: Control, Confidence, and Connection

The Importance of Breath and Nervous System Regulation in Communication

The Impact of Nervous System Control and Addressing Root Causes in Communication

Getting Behind the Words: Ego, Fear, and Creating a Safe Space for Communication

Communication as a Cornerstone of Health and Well-being

The Power of Silence in Communication

The Nuances of Silence: Weaponization, Breath, and Mastering the Nervous System

Reflecting on Communication: Personal Growth and the Power of Slowing Down

Practical Tools for Staying in Control: Breath, Quick Scan, and Small Talk

Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, and the Impact of Social Media

Energy, Compassion, and the Choice to Take Offense

The Importance of Real Conversation and Unraveling Arguments

Taking Things Personally and the Importance of Electronic Communication

Speaking Directly: Self-Assurance and Cultural Differences

Unnecessary Apologies and the Power of Concise Language

Gratitude, Intentionality, and the Impact of "Does That Make Sense?"

The Drummer's Perspective: Setting the Tempo and Finding the Pocket

Final Thoughts and Resources

The Art of Communication: How to Stay Calm, Connected and In Control During Life’s Toughest Moments with Jefferson Fisher #571

Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee

00:00Introduction to Effective Communication and Its Importance

Introduction to Effective Communication and Its Importance

05:03The Genesis of a Passion for Communication: A Personal Story

The Genesis of a Passion for Communication: A Personal Story

11:17Communication as a Fundamental Human Need and the Power of Choice

Communication as a Fundamental Human Need and the Power of Choice

16:00The Three Core Principles of Effective Communication: Control, Confidence, and Connection

The Three Core Principles of Effective Communication: Control, Confidence, and Connection

19:42The Importance of Breath and Nervous System Regulation in Communication

The Importance of Breath and Nervous System Regulation in Communication

27:07The Impact of Nervous System Control and Addressing Root Causes in Communication

The Impact of Nervous System Control and Addressing Root Causes in Communication

33:48Getting Behind the Words: Ego, Fear, and Creating a Safe Space for Communication

Getting Behind the Words: Ego, Fear, and Creating a Safe Space for Communication

40:25Communication as a Cornerstone of Health and Well-being

Communication as a Cornerstone of Health and Well-being

44:45The Power of Silence in Communication

The Power of Silence in Communication

50:40The Nuances of Silence: Weaponization, Breath, and Mastering the Nervous System

The Nuances of Silence: Weaponization, Breath, and Mastering the Nervous System

57:34Reflecting on Communication: Personal Growth and the Power of Slowing Down

Reflecting on Communication: Personal Growth and the Power of Slowing Down

1:03:11Practical Tools for Staying in Control: Breath, Quick Scan, and Small Talk

Practical Tools for Staying in Control: Breath, Quick Scan, and Small Talk

1:09:06Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, and the Impact of Social Media

Self-Awareness, Emotional Regulation, and the Impact of Social Media

1:17:58Energy, Compassion, and the Choice to Take Offense

Energy, Compassion, and the Choice to Take Offense

1:24:48The Importance of Real Conversation and Unraveling Arguments

The Importance of Real Conversation and Unraveling Arguments

1:31:51Taking Things Personally and the Importance of Electronic Communication

Taking Things Personally and the Importance of Electronic Communication

1:37:24Speaking Directly: Self-Assurance and Cultural Differences

Speaking Directly: Self-Assurance and Cultural Differences

1:45:24Unnecessary Apologies and the Power of Concise Language

Unnecessary Apologies and the Power of Concise Language

1:53:39Gratitude, Intentionality, and the Impact of "Does That Make Sense?"

Gratitude, Intentionality, and the Impact of "Does That Make Sense?"

2:00:27The Drummer's Perspective: Setting the Tempo and Finding the Pocket

The Drummer's Perspective: Setting the Tempo and Finding the Pocket

2:06:30Final Thoughts and Resources

Final Thoughts and Resources