How Good Manners Made Me Happier (with Etiquette Expert William Hanson)

In this episode of The Happiness Lab, Dr. Laurie Santos interviews etiquette expert William Hanson about how etiquette can be a creative coping strategy for navigating life's uncertainties and enhancing happiness. Hanson shares his early interest in etiquette, viewing it as a framework for social interactions and a shield against anxieties, including those related to coming out as gay. The discussion explores the historical roots of etiquette, its evolution from exclusive aristocratic practices to more inclusive and democratic principles, and its role in providing structure and respect in social settings. They delve into specific etiquette rules, such as "no elbows on the table" and seating arrangements, revealing their historical and functional origins. Hanson emphasizes that etiquette is about treating people with respect, tolerance, and compassion, and he provides practical tips for hosting gatherings, expressing gratitude through thank-you letters, and balancing complaints with positive feedback. The episode highlights how embracing etiquette can slow down life, promote mindfulness, and foster stronger social connections, ultimately contributing to increased happiness and well-being.