Susan David, Ph.D. (IG: @susandavid_phd), is an award-winning Psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School; co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital; and CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy. She is the author of the new #1 Wall Street Journal best-selling book Emotional Agility.

In this episode, we discuss:

Growing up in Apartheid South Africa
Being the master of being ok
Writing/journaling like nobody's reading it
Are you bottling emotions?
Stop brooding
Showing up to our emotions
Difficult emotions serve a purpose
Understanding the difference between guilt & shame
Anger often comes about when something important to you is being blocked
Acceptance is the prerequisite of change
Creating space between the thinker and the thought
Stop identifying your whole self with an emotion
Emotion granularity
Our stories don't always serve us
Human beings are drawn to stories, familiarity, & coherence
Values are qualities of action
The most fundamental protector of our health and wellbeing
Social contagion and how to protect yourself from it
The problem with "have to" goals
The tyranny of positivity
Depression is the single leading cause of disability, globally
People with goals around happiness become less happy and less resilient over time
There's a time to grit and a time to quit
Raising emotionally agile children
4 key ideas of emotional agility
All emotions are transient

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Susan David - Emotional Agility (book)

Susan David's website

The Emotional Agility Quiz

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The New York Times - Teaching Your Child Emotional Agility featuring Susan David

James Pennebaker (books)

Viktor Frankl (books)

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