According to Atomic Habits, changing your identity is the highest leverage way to improve your habits, but nobody tells you how to do it.

Don’t say “I’m trying to quit smoking.” Say “I’m not a smoker”. Don’t say “I’m trying to lose weight.” Say “I’m a health nut.”

All well and good. But how do you practically do this, aside from stating your new identity? I’ve worked on developing the approach further and had a lot of success with these techniques.

And changing your identity is especially great because it creates "passive happiness". You do the work once and it lasts a lifetime with little to no maintenance.

Using these techniques I’ve successfully:

Stopped being bothered by mosquitoes.
Become able to wait patiently for food instead of freaking out when it's late.
Learned to like the rain while living in Vancouver and London.
Become a tough person instead of someone derailed by the smallest amount of pain.

All by doing what I call identity work.

Here's how I did it:

Reinforce the new identity.
Starve the old identity.

Reinforce the new identity

Look for confirming evidence

First off, find facts that fit with this new identity. Find [...]

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Outline:

(01:28) Reinforce the new identity

(01:33) Look for confirming evidence

(03:13) Make it social

(03:39) Come up with a story of how you changed your identity

(04:26) Pair it with strong emotions

(05:08) Starve the previous identity

(05:56) Important limitations to the technique

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First published:
October 2nd, 2026

Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/dFw4Twc8J8YWAGebb/how-to-change-your-identity-a-guide-to-the-highest-leverage

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“How to change your identity. A guide to the highest leverage behavior change technique.” by KatSpartz

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“How to change your identity. A guide to the highest leverage behavior change technique.” by KatSpartz