596 - Relationship OCD and Non-monogamy (with Sheva Rajaee MFT)

Relationship OCD (ROCD) manifests as a clinically significant, disruptive cycle of fixation and doubt that extends far beyond typical relationship anxiety. Unlike garden-variety concerns, ROCD involves hours of daily rumination and compulsive behaviors, such as seeking constant reassurance or excessive information gathering. Licensed therapist Sheva Rajaee emphasizes that this condition is often driven by a hyper-attuned threat-detecting brain and reinforced by sociocultural myths that promise a perfect "one" as spiritual salvation. Effective treatment requires breaking these compulsive loops—often through exposure and response prevention—rather than attempting to solve the underlying doubts. Partners play a crucial role by supporting the individual’s recovery without becoming part of the compulsion cycle. Ultimately, freeing healthy connection from the impossible grip of perfectionism allows for more authentic, sustainable relationships.