The science of self-worth (and how to boost yours)

Self-esteem functions as a filter for how individuals process life experiences, often creating a paradox where those with low self-worth struggle to accept positive events. When reality contradicts a negative self-view, the body experiences physical stress, leading to increased blood pressure and potential long-term health impacts. This phenomenon stems from self-verification theory, where the brain seeks consistency between internal beliefs and external reality. To address this, memory reconsolidation offers a pathway to transform "open" memories—those that continue to trigger emotional distress—by fully processing the underlying feelings. By updating these emotional databases, individuals can shift their perception of self, ultimately becoming more capable of accepting love, support, and success without the anxiety of impending failure. Psychologist Marisa Franco, author of *Worth*, highlights that this process is essential for internalizing life's positive experiences.