You say yes when you mean no. You take on work that isn't yours because saying no feels too risky. You soften feedback until it loses its meaning, apologize for things that aren't your fault, and spend more energy managing other people's emotions than doing your actual job. And the strangest part? You know you're doing it. You can see it happening in real time. And you still can't stop.

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26. People-Pleasing at Work: Why You Can't Stop (And What It's Really Costing You)

Workplace Therapy with Dr. Abby Medcalf

26. People-Pleasing at Work: Why You Can't Stop (And What It's Really Costing You)