The good advice you least want (with Cate Hall)

Self-help often fails because individuals gravitate toward advice that reinforces their existing psychological "default lens" rather than challenging their inherent weaknesses. Identifying these default patterns, such as through the Enneagram, allows for more transformative growth, provided the system is used as a spectrum of traits rather than a rigid classification. Cate Hall, author of *You Can Just Do Things*, highlights how a rigid adherence to utilitarianism can lead to moral distortion and burnout, advocating instead for a virtue-ethics framework. True agency involves the dual capacity to recognize and act upon overlooked degrees of freedom in one's environment. This skill is not a fixed trait but a learnable set of behaviors, cultivated by systematically exposing oneself to rejection and consciously dismantling the self-imposed constraints that limit personal potential.