What was that moment you thought, “Oh… I think I have ADHD”?

In this episode, I’m joined by Cate Osborn (Catieosaurus) and Erik Gude (Hey Gude)—the authors of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults—for a practical, honest conversation about what it actually looks like to live with ADHD as an adult.

We talk about why so much “helpful” advice doesn’t work for ADHD brains, how to build systems you can restart without shame, and what support can look like when you’re late-diagnosed (including when ADHD overlaps with autism/AuDHD).

And yes—we also go into the adult stuff: relationships, intimacy, sex, communication, and the parts of ADHD life people don’t always say out loud.

In this episode, we cover:

How Cate and Erik approached writing a book as two people with ADHD
Executive dysfunction, motivation, and why “simple” solutions often fail
ADHD-friendly systems, accommodations, and sustainable routines
ADHD and relationships: intimacy, communication, and repair
Self-compassion and personal responsibility—holding both at once

The ADHD Field Guide for Adults

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