When people talk about premature ejaculation, the conversation is usually framed around performance: lasting longer, gaining control, or somehow “fixing” the problem. But what if we’ve been thinking about this issue all wrong? In today’s episode, we explore a different way of understanding early ejaculation that’s less rooted less in performance and more in the nervous system, anxiety, shame, and body awareness.

My guest is Michelle Fischler, an ASTO Certified Sex Therapist with over a decade of clinical experience. She is also the founder of GETSOME, a platform and podcast dedicated to dissolving sexual shame. Her new book is titled Coming Soon: The Unshaming Guide to Early Ejaculation and Lasting Longer.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

What counts as early ejaculation?
Why isn’t early ejaculation just a performance problem?
How can breath help regulate arousal?
What can solo practice teach us about arousal and pleasure?
How can couples approach early ejaculation as a team?

You can check out Michelle’s website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials at @getsome_podcast

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Episode 502: Rethinking Premature Ejaculation

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 502: Rethinking Premature Ejaculation