Being turned on by the idea of sharing your partner with someone else is a surprisingly common sexual fantasy, and it’s something many couples are actively exploring in real life. In today’s show, we’re diving into a practice known as hotwifing, including how common it is and the psychology behind it.

My guest is Kathy Kay, host of the Strictly Anonymous Podcast and author of the new book Strictly Anonymous Confessions: Secret Sex Lives of Total Strangers, a collection of real, unfiltered stories from people revealing their most private sexual thoughts and experiences.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

What is hotwifing, and how is it similar to or different from cuckolding?
What are some common themes involved in hotwifing fantasies?
Why is hotwifing appealing to so many people?
What are people’s experiences with hotwifing like?

To learn more, check out the Strictly Anonymous website.

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Episode 492: Why So Many People Fantasize About Sharing Their Partner

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 492: Why So Many People Fantasize About Sharing Their Partner