10 Mar 2026
31m

Are boyfriends embarrassing now? Some answers.

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Love Letters

The podcast explores the concept of whether having a boyfriend is now considered embarrassing, stemming from a viral Vogue essay by Shante Joseph. Joseph noticed a trend of women subtly hiding or obscuring their boyfriends in online posts, suggesting a shift away from the "clout" once associated with publicizing relationships. The discussion delves into reasons behind this, including anticipatory embarrassment, the desire to avoid appearing "basic," and a broader critique of heteronormative relationship structures. Joseph shares insights into the backlash and support she received, particularly from single women feeling seen and younger individuals grappling with societal pressures around relationships. She is currently writing a book called "Picky," which addresses society's tendency to blame women for their singleness.

Outlines

Part 1: The Essay and Cultural Context

Part 2: Psychological Drivers and Public Reaction

Part 3: Societal Pressures and Identity

Part 4: Authenticity and Future Outlook

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