07 Jan 2026
41m

Want to have better sex this year? Here’s how.

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Modern Love

The podcast explores strategies for enhancing one's sex life, focusing on both casual and long-term relationships. Dr. Nicole McNichols, a professor at the University of Washington, shares insights from her human sexuality course and her book, "You Could Be Having Better Sex." For casual sex, she emphasizes the importance of autonomous motivation and clear communication of emotional and physical boundaries, highlighting that women enjoy casual sex as much as men when orgasm is achieved. In long-term relationships, McNichols recommends setting the mood, prioritizing orgasm, using guiding phrases, and introducing novelty, even micro-novelty, once a month. She also debunks the myth that spontaneous sex is always better, noting that planned sex can be equally pleasurable and provides opportunities for anticipation and exploration.

Outlines

Part 1: Introduction, Context

Part 2: Relationships, Well-being

Part 3: Casual Sex, Consent

Part 4: Long-Term Spark, Novelty

Part 5: Planning, Practical Tips

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