Men’s sexuality is often described as being pretty simple. Sex is seen as being easy for guys because they’re always in the mood and sex is just a physical thing for them. The reality of male sexuality, however, is far more complicated, and we’re not doing anyone any favors by oversimplifying it. So in this episode, we’re going to dive into common myths about male sexuality.

In today’s show, we’re revisiting one of my favorite conversations from the archives, my interview with Cam Fraser which originally aired in episode 255. Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, Registered Counselor, and Registered Tantric Yoga Teacher.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

Where did this idea that men are “simple” and women are “complex” when it comes to sex come from?
How do attractiveness standards affect men when it comes to sex, dating, and relationships?
What do men who are anxious about their penis size need to know?
Are men always supposed to be aroused and ready for sex?
To what degree is sex emotional vs. physical for men?

You can check out Cam’s website to learn more about his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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Episode 411: Debunking Myths About Men’s Sexuality (Essential Listen)

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 411: Debunking Myths About Men’s Sexuality (Essential Listen)