Every relationship we have could benefit from defining some boundaries, whether we’re talking about relationships with our employers, friends, or sexual partners. However, most of us aren’t very good at establishing them because setting boundaries feels like saying “no,” and no can be a really difficult word to say for a lot of reasons. So let’s talk about boundaries. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss everything you need to know, including when to discuss them, how to communicate boundaries effectively, as well as how to move on when boundary violations occur.

I am joined by Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. Some of the topics we discuss include:

Why setting boundaries is so hard.
How to figure out your own boundaries, because sometimes we don’t know what they are yet.
The fluidity of boundaries over time.
When and how to reveal your boundaries in a relationship.
Tips for starting a productive conversation about boundaries.
How to listen better when a partner expresses their boundaries.
How to recover and repair a relationship when boundaries get crossed.

To learn more about Dr. Aly, visit TurnON.love and follow @TurnON.love on Instagram. For information on Dr. Aly’s upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills Mastercourse starting in January 2023, visit TurnON.love/intimacy

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The Scarlet Society is here to help you explore what it is that brings you pleasure and cultivate the relationships you deserve. It’s your new home for trusted resources aimed at helping women navigate sex and love after age 40. Visit scarletsociety.com to learn more and liberate your sexuality.

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Episode 134: How To Set Sexual Boundaries

Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 134: How To Set Sexual Boundaries