This is a link post.

I don't usually post stories on LessWrong so I'm curious to see how this is received.

The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire following year.

So when you said “Hi” at a party and suggested catching up, I hesitated. But curiosity won out.

You still asked probing questions like “Why did you quit your job?” and “What did you think of your manager? I hear they don't have a great social reputation.”

These weren't questions I wanted to answer. But this time, something was different. Not you—me.

In the past, I would have felt forced to answer your questions. But I’m sure you can remember how I responded when we spoke again: “Mm, I don’t want to answer that question”, “I don’t want to gossip” [...]

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Outline:

(02:46) Addendum: Beliefs I have

(02:51) Emotional security is the absence of insecurities

(03:34) It's about present predictions, not past trauma

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First published:
August 17th, 2024

Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/Xfo2HjiHdbeJinjo3/i-didn-t-have-to-avoid-you-i-was-just-insecure

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Narrated by TYPE III AUDIO.

“I didn’t have to avoid you; I was just insecure ” by Chipmonk

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“I didn’t have to avoid you; I was just insecure ” by Chipmonk