Co-Regulation: Stepping in with soothing, responsive interactions to help a person be able to regulate their emotions. OR Borrowing the ability to attain a regulated state from another person who is emotionally regulated and responsive to our need for assistance.

First – you need to regulate yourself.

Be aware of own triggers
Find /create your own system of support
Find activities, interests to help you regulate (music, movies, hobbies, exercise)
Find what grounds and anchors you, a source of strength, comfort, and clarity of purpose like personal faith, nature, meditations

Second - let them borrow some of your regulation.

Be (and remain) present
Reflect back calm and responsiveness
Hold space

The final step of regulation is to actively teach children how to regulate themselves, giving them tools to use.

Mindfulness
Name It to Tame It
Creative Expressions of Emotions
Movement & Rhythm
Breathing
Sensory Engagement
Hunger or Thirst
Grounding Techniques
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Resources:

Mona Delahooke https://monadelahooke.com/

Deb Dana https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

The Whole Brain Child- Dr. Siegel and Dr. Bryson

Ep 76: Diving Deep into Co-Regulation

Regulated &amp; Relational

Ep 76: Diving Deep into Co-Regulation

Regulated & Relational