this week (part 1 of our external validation series), we’re deep diving into a topic that’s come up again and again across our episodes : seeking external validation. Inspired by a beautiful piece of writing that perfectly captured our feelings (we read it at the start of the episode!), we reflect on our own relationships with validation, how it’s shaped our childhoods, friendships, and identities. from the desire to be liked in school, to the performative nature of social media, to internalising rejection from people we don’t even admire… we’re unpacking it all. we also explore the psychology behind validation seeking. it’s a vulnerable one, and we hope it makes you feel a little more understood 🤍

part 2 will be out next week where we get into the emotional cost of it all as well as our little toolkit on how to stop seeking it!

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Sources:

https://ellinasukh.substack.com/p/the-need-to-be-seen?r=trybr&utm_medium=ios&triedRedirect=true

https://thejackfruitlife.substack.com/p/stop-seeking-validation-and-trust?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

https://oizystunmise.substack.com/p/stop-craving-validation-from-people?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web (took a lot of the actual quotes from here, loved this writing)

https://pachdeng.substack.com/p/seeking-external-validation-leads

https://tessacooperpengelly.substack.com/p/how-to-stop-seeking-external-validation?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

https://juliaarcherstrong.substack.com/p/how-to-stop-seeking-external-validation?r=trybr&utm_medium=ios&triedRedirect=true

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