This bonus episode was special. I brought on Kyle Shepard, a functional fitness coach, military resilience instructor, and one of the most intentional thinkers I’ve come across on Substack. We went straight into the deep end.

We talked about how endurance without orientation just prolongs failure, why avoiding constraint creates bigger problems down the road, and how real resilience is about getting honest feedback from reality as fast as possible.

Kyle trains people to stop lying to themselves under pressure. Whether you’re squatting, parenting, leading a team, or just trying to become a better version of yourself, this conversation is full of practical gold.

Kyle’s redefinition of self-care is both wild and perfectly sensical. In a world that tells us self-care means scrolling, snacking, and avoiding discomfort, he flips it: real self-care is doing the hard thing on purpose, even (especially) when you don’t feel like it. He points out that functional fitness is raising your floor so your worst day is still good. That mindset bleeds into every area of life, and it’s honestly changed how I approach my own training and discipline.

Guest Bio Kyle Shepard is a functional fitness coach, military resilience instructor, and the mind behind the Resilient Mental State Substack and podcast. He specializes in making training accessible to everyone from absolute beginners to high performers, while using physical challenge as a vehicle for mental, emotional, and spiritual growth. His monthly challenges and morning reflection threads are some of the highest-signal content on the platform.

Key Topics We Covered:

* Why avoiding constraint creates secondary (and worse) constraints

* The difference between pleasure and fulfillment

* Raising your floor vs. constantly testing your ceiling

* Functional fitness as resilience training across all domains

* Parenting as leadership under extreme constraint

* Why “self-care” culture gets it backwards

* Building habits that transfer from the gym to real life

Get full access to The Shepard Scale at shepardscale.substack.com/subscribe

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