We’ve all had somebody in our life we genuinely wanted to help — but couldn’t seem to get through to. Maybe they’re going through a rough season. Maybe they seem shut down.

Maybe they’re stuck in a pattern they can’t see. Sometimes that person’s been us.

This episode digs into what’s actually happening when someone won’t let you in, why logic almost never changes behavior, and what to do instead.

We cover why most people default to the wrong influence tactics when they’re trying to reach someone, what people are really protecting when they put up walls, and how comparison — even when it comes from a good place — can make the problem worse.

If you’ve ever said “they’re just not motivated” about someone you care about, this one’s going to reframe that for you.

“If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide, please seek professional help. You can reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline anytime by calling or texting 988.“

What You’ll Learn: ∙ Strategies for breaking through when someone seems despondent or completely shut down ∙ What to check yourself on when you catch yourself problem-solving instead of connecting ∙ ⁠The one influence strategy you’re probably relying on too much — and why it’s making things worse

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E420 | How to Reach Someone Who Seems Shutdown, Unmotivated or in a Dark Place

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