We’re living in polarized times – particularly, when it comes to questions of identity, such as race and culture and gender. At the same time, our growing cultural diversity is at this point baked into the future. Within the next 20 years, the majority of Americans will identify as something other than white; that’s already the case in four states. In the 2020 Census, nearly 40 million people identified themselves as multiracial, almost a 300 percent increase from a decade before.

Just in time for Valentine’s Day, host Kai Wright opens the phones to callers to share what they’ve learned about themselves from finding love across differences. Kai’s joined by Marya T. Mtshali, assistant professor of sociology at Bucknell University who studies intersectional theory, and author of the forthcoming book, “(In)Visible Terrains: Race, Gender, and Heterosexuality in the Lives of Interracial Couples.” They break down the real statistics behind our societal perceptions about intercultural relationships of all kinds. Lamar Dawson, host for TikTok Radio on SiriusXM (Channel 4) and author of the The Black Gay Man's Guide To Interracial Dating.

Missed the conversation? It’s not too late to share your thoughts! Call us at 844-745-TALK(8255) and tell us: If you are, or have been, in an intimate relationship with someone of a different racial, ethnic, or cultural background, what is something you’ve learned about yourself?

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Tell us what you think. We're @noteswithkai on Instagram and X (Twitter). Email us at notes@wnyc.org. Send us a voice message by recording yourself on your phone and emailing us, or record one here.

Notes from America airs live on Sundays at 6 p.m. ET. The podcast episodes are lightly edited from our live broadcasts.

Intercultural Relationships Are More Common, But Are They Less Taboo?

Notes from America with Kai Wright