Do You Feel Invisible?

The podcast explores the profound human need to feel significant and the psychological consequences of feeling invisible or unimportant. Psychologist Gordon Flett discusses the concept of "mattering," defining it as feeling cared about and appreciated for who you are, not just for what you do. Flett connects the lack of mattering to various negative outcomes, including social anxiety, depression, conflict in relationships, and even violent behavior, citing the Columbine High School shooters as an extreme example. He emphasizes that fostering a sense of mattering can be deliberately cultivated through simple actions like giving someone your full attention, expressing appreciation, and making others feel valued. The conversation also highlights the importance of recognizing the impact we already have on others and intentionally setting out to make others feel like they matter.