Sunday Pick: How to find true love (w/ Francesca Hogi) | from How to Be a Better Human

The podcast explores the concept of true love as an "inside job," emphasizing self-love and internal beliefs over external factors. Francesca Hogi, author and love coach, argues that societal conditioning and the "fairy tale industrial complex" promote unrealistic expectations, disconnecting individuals from their self-worth and authentic values. She highlights the importance of examining one's preferences and understanding the underlying reasons behind them, rather than adhering to rigid criteria based on external traits. Hogi advocates for prioritizing relationship values, such as respect and safety, from the outset, while recognizing that commitment and intimacy can grow over time. She also addresses the specific challenges faced by Black women in dating due to societal messages of undesirability, urging them to decolonize their minds and focus on self-acceptance.