Our Sex Life is a Disaster

This episode of "Where Should We Begin" delves into the sexual disconnection of a couple, exploring how their deep caretaking tendencies and emotional responsibility stifle erotic energy. The couple's struggle is exacerbated by pregnancy, past trauma, and differing communication styles, leading to a repetitive cycle of emotional connection followed by sexual impasse. Esther Perel identifies the importance of "lightness" and playfulness in their dynamic, suggesting they avoid deep emotional conversations during intimate moments. She highlights how one partner's tendency to "check in" and the other's history of accommodating others' needs recreate a dynamic of distance. Through a physical enactment exercise, Perel encourages them to explore power dynamics and the balance between individual desires and shared experiences, emphasizing the need for both partners to be sturdy and let go.