This is why you're so hard on yourself (Coaching with Joe)

Self-judgment often serves as a subconscious defense mechanism used to avoid experiencing painful underlying emotions such as sadness, anxiety, and anger. When individuals hold themselves to external expectations regarding their potential or their roles as family members, they frequently trade acute emotional expression for long-term depressive states and shame. By intentionally accessing suppressed anger and vocally rejecting the pressure to be "good enough" or to meet parental expectations, it is possible to shift the body's physiological state and alleviate feelings of depression almost instantly. This somatic approach demonstrates that the "vibration" of self-judgment dissipates when the individual stops suppressing their authentic feelings and instead embraces their humanity and the right to make mistakes. Joe Hudson facilitates this transformation by guiding a participant through a brief, high-intensity exercise in emotional release, proving that shifting from mental judgment to embodied feeling creates immediate psychological relief.