Boundaries, Solved: How to Set (And Keep) Your Boundaries This Year

In this episode of SOLVED, Mark Manson and Drew Burney delve into the complexities of boundaries, defining them as self-defined limits that protect core needs and values across various life domains. They explore the continuum of boundary types, from porous to rigid, emphasizing the importance of healthy, flexible boundaries that adapt to context while safeguarding personal values. The discussion covers distinguishing boundaries from rules, preferences, and requests, and identifies red flags indicating poor boundary setting, such as chronic resentment and identity confusion. The hosts underscore the philosophical and psychological underpinnings of boundaries, referencing Kant and Freud, and stress the role of values in effective boundary formation. They also discuss common mistakes in setting boundaries, such as reactive approaches and prioritizing feelings over values, and provide practical steps for establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries, including clear communication, consistency, and guilt management.