How to maintain emotional intimacy in long-term relationships

This episode of NPR's Life Kit features Marielle Segarra interviewing James Cordova, a psychology professor, about building and maintaining emotional intimacy in romantic relationships. Cordova uses the metaphor of porcupines in love to illustrate the challenges of vulnerability. The discussion covers the difference between comfort and intimacy, the importance of mindful attention, and strategies for managing conflict by distinguishing between solvable and perpetual problems. Cordova emphasizes incorporating daily rituals of connection, practicing grace, kindness, and curiosity, and prioritizing understanding over being understood to foster deeper intimacy.