Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism - Dr Paul Hewitt

In this interview, Chris Williamson and Dr. Paul Hewitt discuss perfectionism as a deeply ingrained personality style stemming from a core belief of inadequacy. Dr. Hewitt explains that perfectionism develops early in life as a way to seek acceptance and worth, often rooted in experiences of non-attunement with caregivers. The conversation explores the distinction between healthy striving and toxic perfectionism, the abusive inner dialogue of perfectionists, and how achievement fails to relieve the underlying sense of unacceptability. They delve into different types of perfectionism, its overlap with narcissism, and its association with mental health issues, relationship problems, and even early death. Dr. Hewitt shares insights on therapeutic approaches, emphasizing the importance of addressing deeper issues of worth and belonging rather than solely focusing on behavioral changes. The discussion also touches on the increasing rates of perfectionism in modern society and offers advice for those living with perfectionists.