Limerence

In this episode of Overthink, co-hosts David and Ellie delve into the concept of limerence, a term coined by psychologist Dorothy Tenov to describe the obsessive, often painful, mental state of being infatuated with someone who may not reciprocate those feelings. They explore the characteristics of limerence, such as intrusive thinking, sensitivity to perceived signs from the "limerent object" (LO), and the idealization or "crystallization" of the LO, drawing on Tenov's work and personal anecdotes. The discussion touches on the differences between limerence and love, the role of social media and modern dating practices in fostering limerence, and the ethical considerations for both the limerent person and the LO. They also discuss potential benefits of limerence, such as self-development, while cautioning against its potential for harm and creepiness, referencing Tom Bellamy's book "Smitten" as a resource for managing limerence.