Quinlan Walther: Stop Chasing Love Just Because You’re Lonely! (Do THIS to Attract the RIGHT Relationship)

In this episode of "On Purpose," Jay Shetty interviews Quinlan Walther, a relationship coach, about the differences between wanting and being ready for a relationship, emphasizing the importance of self-trust and avoiding seeking love from a place of desperation. They discuss building self-trust through curiosity, capacity, compassion, and commitment, and explore the role of growth in relationships, the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and the need for emotional safety. Walther stresses the importance of accountability, setting boundaries, and being a supportive partner, and offers advice on navigating breakups and building fulfilling relationships based on shared values and mutual respect.

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On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Introduction to Relationships: Wanting vs. Being Ready

Building Self-Trust: The Four C's

Relationships as a Catalyst for Growth and Emotional Safety

Discerning Good Feedback and the Importance of Consideration

Combating Dating Burnout and Reintroducing Flirting

The Reality and Misleading Nature of the Spark

Compatibility vs. Similarity and the Importance of Respect

Love as Action and Taking Accountability

The Catalyst for Change: Loss, Repair, and Self-Acceptance

Recognizing and Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

Temperament, Self-Love, and Relationship Dynamics

Accountability vs. Trying to Change Someone and Shifting Focus

Boundaries: Protecting Yourself and Being Your Partner's Biggest Fan

Love vs. the Idea of Someone and the Honor of Loving

Partnership, Communication, and Meeting Needs

Trusting Yourself After Heartbreak

Heartbreak as a Catalyst and Living with Integrity

Gratitude and Episode Conclusion

Quinlan Walther: Stop Chasing Love Just Because You’re Lonely! (Do THIS to Attract the RIGHT Relationship)

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

00:00Introduction to Relationships: Wanting vs. Being Ready

Introduction to Relationships: Wanting vs. Being Ready

04:42Building Self-Trust: The Four C's

Building Self-Trust: The Four C's

08:20Relationships as a Catalyst for Growth and Emotional Safety

Relationships as a Catalyst for Growth and Emotional Safety

15:05Discerning Good Feedback and the Importance of Consideration

Discerning Good Feedback and the Importance of Consideration

22:23Combating Dating Burnout and Reintroducing Flirting

Combating Dating Burnout and Reintroducing Flirting

27:34The Reality and Misleading Nature of the Spark

The Reality and Misleading Nature of the Spark

31:34Compatibility vs. Similarity and the Importance of Respect

Compatibility vs. Similarity and the Importance of Respect

35:36Love as Action and Taking Accountability

Love as Action and Taking Accountability

41:03The Catalyst for Change: Loss, Repair, and Self-Acceptance

The Catalyst for Change: Loss, Repair, and Self-Acceptance

50:06Recognizing and Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

Recognizing and Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

55:54Temperament, Self-Love, and Relationship Dynamics

Temperament, Self-Love, and Relationship Dynamics

1:01:05Accountability vs. Trying to Change Someone and Shifting Focus

Accountability vs. Trying to Change Someone and Shifting Focus

1:05:57Boundaries: Protecting Yourself and Being Your Partner's Biggest Fan

Boundaries: Protecting Yourself and Being Your Partner's Biggest Fan

1:15:59Love vs. the Idea of Someone and the Honor of Loving

Love vs. the Idea of Someone and the Honor of Loving

1:19:56Partnership, Communication, and Meeting Needs

Partnership, Communication, and Meeting Needs

1:24:07Trusting Yourself After Heartbreak

Trusting Yourself After Heartbreak

1:30:22Heartbreak as a Catalyst and Living with Integrity

Heartbreak as a Catalyst and Living with Integrity

1:37:15Gratitude and Episode Conclusion

Gratitude and Episode Conclusion