How to Stop Choosing Unavailable People (7 Steps) | Rewind

In this monologue podcast, Matthew Hussey discusses the reasons why people attract emotionally unavailable partners and how this pattern is linked to a lack of self-trust and reliance on external validation. He explains that people who don't trust their own decisions often seek validation from others, leading them to value those who are hard to get or popular, while devaluing those who show genuine interest. Hussey provides seven actionable steps to build self-trust, including not giving others too much credit, avoiding decision-making by committee, knowing what one is optimizing for, allowing oneself to make wrong decisions, practicing decision-making in small ways, leaning into decisions, and recognizing that others take cues from us. He emphasizes that there is no one right answer in life and that we have the agency to make our own decisions and create our own happiness. He concludes by encouraging listeners to sign up for his email newsletter, "The Three Relationships," for more advice on improving their relationships with themselves, others, and life.