10: A Partner Sensitive Recovery Plan

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, hosts Marnie Breaker and Duane Osterlund discuss the Circle Plan, a recovery tool for addicts, particularly those dealing with sexual compulsions. They explain the traditional three-circle model: the inner "red light" circle of behaviors to avoid, the middle "yellow light" circle of triggers, and the outer "green light" circle of healthy behaviors. They emphasize the importance of customizing the plan and sharing it with partners for transparency and support. Marnie and Duane also introduce the "Fourth Circle" or "Other Circle," which includes individuals affected by the addict's behavior, such as partners, children, or even employees, to foster relational healing and challenge the addict's self-focus. They advocate for the integration of this fourth circle despite some resistance, highlighting its benefits for both individual recovery and coupleship.