How Shame Warps Your Identity After Trauma

In this monologue podcast, Tim Fletcher discusses the concept of reparenting and how complex trauma leads individuals to believe lies about themselves, relationships, and life. He explains that these lies, often buried in the subconscious, stem from childhood experiences of neglect, abuse, or abandonment, causing individuals to develop a flawed sense of identity and worth. Fletcher lists 35 lies that individuals may believe about themselves as a result of complex trauma, including the need to hide their true selves, a fear of rejection, and the belief that they are unlovable or not good enough. These lies can manifest in various ways, such as people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and the pursuit of external validation. The podcast emphasizes the importance of identifying and replacing these lies as part of the recovery process, highlighting the extensive work involved in overcoming the damaging effects of complex trauma.