Episode 384: It gets worse before it gets better (understanding why change is so difficult)

This podcast episode explores the concept of extinction bursts and how they relate to changing dysfunctional dynamics in relationships. The speaker emphasizes the challenges of altering long-standing behavior patterns but highlights the possibility of achieving positive change through patience and preparedness for discomfort. The episode discusses the phenomenon of extinction bursts in rats, where behavior intensifies and becomes more frequent before eventually decreasing. Understanding this process is crucial when making changes to established dynamics. The concept of reinforcement is also discussed, emphasizing the need to stop reinforcing the desired behavior in order to facilitate change.