This episode explores the psychology behind the "talking stage" in modern dating, particularly among those in their 20s, defining it as the period of communication before an official date. The discussion highlights how this stage, largely facilitated by dating apps, serves as a modern dating script for assessing compatibility and avoiding emotional investment, yet often leads to prolonged uncertainty and potential disappointment. Against the backdrop of endless choices provided by dating apps, people tend to keep their options open, paradoxically missing out on potentially good matches. The presenter suggests limiting the talking stage to one month, focusing on information gathering, and being wary of individuals low in commitment readiness, those with anxious attachment styles, or novelty seekers. More significantly, the episode addresses the psychological intensity of the talking stage, driven by uncertainty and the mind games people play for self-protection, advocating for authenticity and direct communication instead. The episode concludes with advice on managing attachment, finding closure when the talking stage ends, and recognizing that every experience, even a failed talking stage, offers valuable lessons for future relationships.
