How To Fix Your Negative Patterns - Alain de Botton (4K)

In this interview, Alain de Botton discusses the origins of negative inner voices, explaining how they are internalized outer voices shaped by early emotional experiences, similar to language acquisition. He emphasizes the difficulty of changing these deeply ingrained emotional patterns, comparing it to learning a new language. The conversation explores how language shapes our emotional understanding and the importance of vocabulary in defining and managing feelings, as well as the concept of disassociation and its impact on mental health. De Botton offers advice on healing negative inner voices through sentence completion exercises to uncover hidden beliefs and promotes self-authorship by editing societal influences to align with personal values. The discussion further delves into the complexities of relationships, attachment styles, and the balance between honesty and kindness, highlighting the need for awareness, compassion, and understanding in navigating emotional challenges and fostering personal growth.