In this podcast, relationship experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman share insights from their extensive research on what makes marriages thrive or falter. They introduce the concept of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse"—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—as key indicators of relationship breakdowns. The Gottmans stress the importance of "bids for connection" and the idea of "fighting right," which focuses on constructive conflict resolution aimed at understanding rather than assigning blame. They also discuss the vital roles of trust and commitment in relationships and offer practical tools for couples, including strategies for addressing infidelity and managing situational domestic violence. Additionally, they challenge the common belief that couples should never go to bed angry, suggesting that resolving conflicts is often more effective when both partners are well-rested.
