silentbob's post "Failures in Kindness" is excellent. I love the idea that sometimes, when we exaimine a situation in depth, the most "kind" course of action can be highly conterintuitive. A few other examples I'd like to offer:

Appreciative Kindness

Imagine you meet a friend-of-a-friend for the first time while attending a gathering at their home. "Hey, welcome! It's great to meet you - can I get you anything?" they ask. There's nothing you really want right now, and you don't want to take from them or cause inconvienience, so you say "I'm fine, thanks."

Some people might assume declining their offer is kind. After all, wouldn't it be inconsiderate to make them go to the effort to proivde you with something you don't even really want?

But declining in this way will likely be percieved as a minor rejection. From the other person's perspective, they [...]

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First published:
July 27th, 2024

Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/SAzrAyJw6LeQ4SAb6/inspired-by-failures-in-kindness

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